There have been many articles written on this subject:
How to tell partner is cheating,
Top 10 signs that your partner is cheating, etc.
Having worked on numerous matrimonial and cheating partner cases, I can say with certainty that there are no constant top 10 signs a partner is cheating – most behaviours can certainly be explained. Here are a couple of myths and patterns that don’t always mean anything on their own.
Partner put a lock on their phone?
As phones have started to store more and more of our information, the need to keep your mobile phone secure has increased dramatically. While it may have been suspicious in the past, this isn’t particularly alarming on its own.
Leaving the room to take calls.
This is something that many, many people do. If someone is cheating, are they really going to take phone calls when you’re nearby in the first place when they can text? For taking phone calls, many do it so that they can hear the other person better or to keep their work and private life separate.
Their phone never leaves their side.
Maybe long ago, but now wouldn’t it be more surprising if someone didn’t? Someone that brings their phone everywhere with them is closer to the rule than the exception nowadays. This recent study shows that 79% of people keep their phones on-hand almost permanently.
They have joined the gym.
Sure, this could mean that they’re in a new relationship – but it can also mean that maybe they’re just motivated to live a healthier lifestyle. They could be looking to get fit or lose weight to impress someone, but that person could easily still be you. The gym industry is blowing up, so it’s no surprise that more people are finding the time to visit one.
They work late at short notice.
Short, vaguely explained disappearances or schedule changes *could* be a cause for concern for anybody asking “is my partner cheating?” – but it could just as easily be a demanding job requiring longer hours. In the UK, working extra hours is becoming more and more commonplace.
Those that are committed to having an affair or affairs will go out of their way to cover up any suspicious activity.
Most of the infidelity cases that IC Investigations have dealt with – and we’ve dealt with many – have involved long running, elaborate deceptions. In many of these cases, the affair has become a normal part of the participants life so the signs may have gone on for so long that they aren’t noticeable to those closest.
In one of our cases, we carried out surveillance on behalf of a concerned client. Her suspicions proved correct, and it turned out that her husband had been in a ‘normal’ family relationship with another woman for nine years, going so far as to have a child with this other woman.
So…how do you actually know if your partner is cheating on you?
After reading this, you may be wondering if there’s any way you really can spot a cheating partner. The answer is yes, but private investigators like ourselves have a much better idea of what to look for – and in many cases, only options like dedicated surveillance will get results from a cheater that has learned to cover their tracks well. We provide extensive services that thoroughly investigate your suspicions, and conduct ourselves in a manner that leaves no risk of exposure. The average affair lasts for 6 months, so it’s best to investigate while you still believe it to be ongoing.
If you’d like to learn more about spotting the right signs, our next blog will cover what you can do to look for signs your partner is cheating on you. Until then, you can follow our Facebook and Twitter to see all the latest news and read our next installment when it’s done.