This form of Psychological abuse is being identified more and more in cases of matrimonial infidelity. It is often assumed that the perpetrator will be the male in the relationship, but this is not always the case.
The term originates in the systematic psychological manipulation of a victim by her husband in the 1938 stage play Gaslight, known as Angel Street in the United States.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that’s seen in abusive relationships. It’s the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts, memories, and the events occurring around them. A victim of gaslighting can be pushed so far that they question their own sanity.
Gaslighting can happen in many types of relationships, but one of the most devastating forms of gaslighting is when it occurs in a relationship between a couple.
More often than not the person being ‘gaslighted’ has absolutely no clue that it is being done because they are often blinded by the relationship.
People who gaslight become expert at pushing your buttons, and they know your sensitivities and vulnerabilities and use that knowledge against you. They make you doubt yourself, your judgment, your memory, and even your sanity;
Indifferent to how you feel.
Telling you that people are talking behind your back, that your friends don’t like you.
Putting down how you look.
Denying saying things you know they did even when they have just said them
Hiding objects from you, and then deny knowing anything about it, before returning the item and claiming you are stupid or making things up.
Essentially what they are doing it taking the spotlight from any of their indiscretions, faults or lies and placing the spotlight firmly on their victim.